If there’s anything I’m learning in 2024, it is; Love is a choice, friendship is a choice. People staying in your life is a choice. People showing up for you when darkness looms is a choice. Hear me out; we are all adults and therefore, people know what they are doing. It might seem like a misunderstanding, misinterpretation, etc but trust me, at the end of the day, people know what they are doing. The reason why I’m choosing to hold onto that stance is; We all understand the concept of actions leading to consequences. I highly doubt there’s […] Continue Reading…
BIG NEWS ALERT!!💃😁❤️-I FINALLY HAVE MY OWN WEBSITE!!!!!!!!
Hello dear readers, I trust you are well. In case you are not, I hope it helps to know you are not alone. This isn’t even an article. It’s more of a love letter. From me, to you. I just want to say; THANK YOU. It’s been a journey to get to where we are now and that would have never been possible without your support. Over the years we’ve managed to build this little intimate community through the power of words and I cannot emphasize enough how grateful I am.I’m so happy to announce I finally got my […] Continue Reading…
LOVE THEN vs LOVE NOW.
Sometimes I find myself reminiscing my perspective of love as a 16-year-old. Life was so much simpler back then. I just chuckled because my 16-year-old self wouldn’t have believe that. I desperately wanted to become an adult back then.
Welcome to today’s article. How about we take a trip down memory lane? Welcome to my POV; Love and relationships as 16-year-old Mukite. Take into consideration that my only blue print to love was telenovelas and novels. That’s all I knew. I’m tempted to add my parents but, they are African. If you know, you know.
Before I had fallen in love […] Continue Reading…
DEFAULT EMOTIONAL STATE.
Lately I’ve been trying to establish what my default emotional state is. Like, when nothing extreme is happening in my life, what is the emotional state my body resorts to? This curiosity was birthed by a book I just finished reading a day ago; Woman Evolve by SJR. There’s this chapter where she delves into how we are so used to welcoming the anxiety, stress, fear etc.…but we are hesitant to let in joy, peace, happiness, love, compassion, empathy, and so forth.
At that exact moment, I picked my bookmark, temporarily closed the book and started thinking; What is my […] Continue Reading…
I’M SORRY.
This is the apology you deserve but never got. This goes out to all of us who are carrying tremendous emotional wounds. Especially those we picked along the way without really asking for it. Truly, I’m sorry. Welcome to today’s article.
I woke up with an inclination to touch on our emotional wounds. I know our stories are completely different. Our scars are different because we all got hurt under different circumstances. However, the common denominator here is, we all know what emotional pain feels like.
We all know what it means to battle anxiety, seasonal depression, loneliness, and […] Continue Reading…
DEATH/MEANING OF LIFE
2024 has started with so many deaths. Every other month, people or someone is dying. They might be a stranger or someone you know, but still, death will always be unsettling. No matter how many times it happens. Welcome to today’s article.
I digress. The thing is, every time I get news that someone is dead, I can’t help but be reminded how life is so fleeting. One minute you are here, the next? Well, you aren’t. And how scary is that? How truly scary is it that you can make plans for tomorrow simply be dead by then?
Okay. The […] Continue Reading…
SHOWING UP AUTHENTICALLY
One of my greatest goals in life is to ultimately hack showing up as myself in the world. The day I introspect and agree with myself that I am authentically showing up as me? Yeah. I’ll feel overwhelming relief. Oh, my bad. Happy new year and Welcome back
I know right now you are thinking…wait what? Soooo all this time you have been putting up a show? Well, not necessarily. However, survival tactics throughout my life have taught me one skill; How to adapt.
Case scenario; I am at work, feeling extremely overwhelmed, and I partly blame my boss for that. […] Continue Reading…
SELF-EXPRESSION.
Being authentic to your true self comes with a certain dosage of loss. You displease quite a number of people, you quickly realize not everybody likes you, (Ouch!)….and the most bitter part; your rawness gets used as a weapon against you instead of it being looked at for what it is; Strength.
It is strength because it is self expression. And that is something not a lot of us are good at. It is something you have to keep nurturing….you have to constantly remind yourself to be brave enough to express your thoughts, emotions, feelings, ideas, fears, dreams, proposals, […] Continue Reading…
NOW.
No single day is the same as the last one. This means we are always experiencing a certain level of adventure with every passing day. This reminds me of the phrase: “Change is constant”. But when it comes down to it, do we really embrace the changes when they come knocking? Do we really say yes to the adventures that fall on our laps every so often? When I talk of adventure, I don’t mean physical adventure in its literal sense. I mean the renewal of the mind that happens when you have a conversation with someone who completely […] Continue Reading…
LOVE: In My Opinion
To love is to sign up for pain. This is one of life’s most interesting paradox. Something that makes you so happy has the capacity to inflict pain almost in equal measure. Because the person you love the most will be the one that hurts you the most. Either intentionally or unintentionally. You’ll do the same. It is a mystery to say the least. Disclaimer: I am very much aware of this but I still choose love. I always will. Because love makes life possible. It makes hope a possibility. Love makes pain bearable. It makes the […] Continue Reading…